Part 3
So much of the crushing we experience in life takes place in our mind. We either experience or imagine our future and it begins to affect us in a similar way to the eaglet falling down the cliff. Research indicates that the average person speaks to themselves 50,000 times per day and 80% of that is self-talk and most of that is negative. It’s an incredibly high statistic that I have tried and tested many times in my own life. The times I find myself having an inner dialogue are incredibly high. How you treat YOU is important. You have more conversations with yourself than anyone else. The level of self-image we have is set by our own barometer in our thought life and inner dialogues. If we see ourselves more highly, we lower our expectation to the barometer level. If we see ourselves lowlier, we raise ourselves to that barometer level.
You can have a $100,000 body and a 25cent spirit in the way your mind and thoughts treat you. As an example, you might experience what I call a malnourished mind. You will say stuff to yourself like, “I can’t figure out why I’m not successful, I don’t know why I’m doing no good.” What kind of conversation are you having with yourself? Does it feel powerless or powerful? Sometimes you can feel low but you actually don’t know why you feel that way because your mind has been in control for so long. It’s almost like an ecosystem and it begins to crush you. “I’m jealous of people who are succeeding, all rich people are selfish, we build cases against people of colour, of gender. I don’t know why I don’t like them? I just don’t!” There is no rational reason for these thoughts because you have allowed your mind to control you for so long.
Here is the learning that takes place in this crushing in our minds. Something terrible may have happened to you but it hasn’t been your lifestyle. That was an ‘incident’ not a lifestyle. These incidents don’t need to be the basis of all your thinking. They were only moments!
Your Crushing is a Stage not a destination! Some people take on the level of their pain to the extent that they make the crushing their address and they live in what should have been a stage. It doesn’t matter what you do, you cannot pull them out of it because pain becomes their normal. They will provoke you till you fight them; they will push you away until you reject them.
Your life looks like this. You are fighting yourself and have become so accustomed to pain that it has become your place of residence. The way out of this sort of negative pattern is to shatter your way out of your pain, break your way out. The crushing you are going through is NOT the end. Don’t get stuck in a stage deteriorating and rotting and giving up on your dreams. As many writers have said your attitude has everything to do with your altitude. Take some time to consider how you can break free from your thinking.
Take in what’s good, throw out what’s bad and keep on moving! Eat the meat, spit out the bones and keep on moving. In the next blog I want to talk about the ability to rise above your circumstance by living like a BIG person. What does that entail?
