Part 2
The value of going through a crushing or painful experience is to be able to explain to people not to be confused or kicked about when the crushing precedes the soaring. The hard times can push in on us all and I am sure that over the last few months you have experienced many testing situations. Negative thought patterns, situations of work hardship, relationship difficulties and a poor past can all crush us internally. However, this is where the value of pain kicks in. When your mother pushes you off a cliff to go and get food, you should be turning to thank her as you plummet down the side getting ready to discover your wings. Here is why.
The times that you experience crushing in your life is the process you are going through and soaring is the person you were always meant to be. You cannot become the person you always wanted to be without going through the process to become that person. The process you venture through will always precede the person you are destined to become.
The reality with people (young and old) today is that they desire a success that they have not been groomed for. Success that you have not been groomed for is like a premature birth. You want to skip the process and go straight to the person you believe you are entitled to be. However, the chances of survival and longevity at this stage are minimal. We don’t want anything before its time. There is age old wisdom that says ‘there is a time and purpose and season for everything under heaven’. In a drive through society we can’t unfortunately pick up a version of ourselves we wish to be without going through the process. There is pain or a crushing involved. It always precedes the person you are destined to be.
I can imagine if you are like me that the thought of falling off a cliff even if it is figurative right now might terrify some of you? The key is don’t allow your fear hold you back from your destiny. The same part of the brain that processes physical pain processes emotional pain. Therefore, my brain doesn’t know whether my heart is broken or if you just stabbed me in the leg. So, when we suffer emotionally, we may be in trauma but there is no medic present because we are not bleeding on the outside. We can be crushed by failed expectations, that I don’t have a job, my marriage didn’t work, that I’m older now and not further down the road, the list is endless. Being crushed can affect you like feeling stabbed. It is a different kind of trauma. It is the trauma of the heart and the soul. The secret crushing’s that life allows us to go through are inescapable. However, the good news for all of us is that crushing is not the end.
In my next blog I will encourage you to see the difficulties you face as ‘a moment’ and not something that determine your lifestyle.
